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People never change much. Instead of rejecting this reality, making your life more difficult, try a different approach. Question: “Many people change their behavior for the better after long struggles, such as with obesity, addiction or finally finding the right relationship or career. So how can you say people don’t
No matter how high performing an employee, if she’s repeatedly disruptive and problematic to others in the organization, it’s best to fire her. The disruption and demoralization of the staff overshadows revenue generated by the troublemaker. The same approach applies to your personal life; when possible, get rid of problem
I embrace the philosophy of personal fate, yet I also believe in free will. Exercise your free will in identifying hidden, limiting beliefs to make the most of your life. Have you ever had the sneaking suspicion that you’re working against your own desires and goals? Of course, it’s not
Destructive pleasure seeking, such as drug use or regularly having too much to drink, is a dangerous trap that creeps up on a person and can destroy their life and the lives of those around them. A life of excess may also include other types of hedonism, such as junk
Mental strength, or fortitude, is a key component to success. Merriam-Webster dictionary defines fortitude as, “…strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage.” I recently reflected on the idea of mental toughness when I was severely jet-lagged due to a more
Many red flag personality traits exist, but seven notorious attributes more frequently lead to personal and, or professional failure. Lack of objectivity: Almost everyone possesses some degree of bias, but someone who can’t make impartial decisions greatly limits his success. Lack of self-discipline: George Washington said, “Discipline is the soul
According to the Government Accountability Office, government background checks identifying convicted felons were erroneous at least 42 percent of the time. Thousands of job seekers with clean records have been flagged as criminals. Read more about the problem in this New York Times article. Two other related problems include convicted
Evasiveness is a problematic escape-type subconscious defense pattern and it’s accurately measured by handwriting analysis. Escape-type defenses, such as evasiveness, self-deception, and secretiveness, are usually more difficult to modify than resistance-type defenses such as aggressiveness and domineering behavior. In other words, for those who possess these personality traits in the
The ultimate career personality test, one that will quickly and efficiently reveal to business owners the best candidate for the job, or to individuals the optimum career path, is greatly sought after. The problem is it doesn’t exist, at least one that can be successfully used by amateur personality analysts.
Psychologist John Gottman identifies what he calls the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse,” the four worst behavior patterns that destroy interpersonal relationships. The four most destructive behavior traits, according to Dr. Gottman are listed below. “Criticism: stating one’s complaints as a defect in one’s partner’s personality, i.e., giving the partner