It’s a myth that “anyone can be compatible with anyone else,” that you can click with anyone, just as long as you smile and try to get along. This could very well be some of the world’s most misguided advice.
Reasonable harmony within your business and personal associations is crucial, but there are times when no matter what you do, discord prevails.
You’ve almost certainly encountered this situation before, and the severity of the personality conflict is not revealed until after it’s too late: almost everything you say to each other seems to be taken as a slight, and there never seems to be common ground between you, even though there seems to be no fault whatsoever in your or the other person’s approach to the connection.
After the amiable façade wears off, true personality and compatibility are exposed, and there’s nothing you can do about extreme, innate conflict, for example, but accept it. However, you can identify personality red flags and difficult compatibility–both are measurable–before you commit your time and money.
In this blog post I mention how “…emotional balance, emotional maturity, objectivity, bias, rationalization, and vanity are personality matters readily outlined through handwriting analysis, such as in my Reliability and Confidentiality Evaluation. Extreme situations, such as those referred to in this article, may necessitate an analysis involving the types of personality characteristics featured above…”
Compatibility is Not a Choice
Your unique compatibility with another person can’t be controlled. It is what it is, no matter how much you try to make it otherwise.
Despite two individuals having similar personality challenges (and the degree of those challenges), person A, for example, is much more likely to cause you problems than person B. It’s readily calculable: the compatibility energy between you and person A is symbolic of extreme volatility and enmity, for instance, whereas the compatibility energy is mostly representative of agreement and good will between you and person B.
The rougher the overall compatibility between two people, the more of a struggle it is to maintain harmony and avoid interpersonal strife, and the more likely it is that the relationship will be the source of continuous problems.
Think of how much time and money you could save knowing that a friendship or business relationship has a very high potential of ending like a train wreck.
Whether it’s business or personal, every individual with whom you interact holds a distinct level of compatibility with you, ranging from unbearable to extremely rewarding, using a scale of 1 to 100, for example.
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