The Ideal Partner Possesses These Ten Qualities

Nobody is perfect, but select, dominant personality traits make a person either irresistible, or the opposite, incorrigible.

Everyone has his or her own unique challenging personality traits, to various degrees. Severe, dangerous cases aren’t common, but given there’s at least a chance the person may be a problem for you, leaping without looking isn’t advised.

Below I list ten common, admirable personality traits.

1. Emotional balance and emotional maturity ensure you can talk through complex issues with your partner without him or her lapsing into a childish and impossible to deal with disposition.
2. A lack of defiance and stubbornness means your partner is flexible enough to reason and compromise when appropriate.
3. Authentic humility and modesty translates into a lack of vanity and narcissism. The narcissist’s demands make it a one-sided partnership; he needs near constant attention, praise, and admiration, or he is likely to be unhappy.
4. A healthy, but not excessive, desire for the acquisition of money assures your partner won’t put the love of money above all else.
5. A big picture outlook, instead of perfectionism and excessive attention to detail, makes a better partner.
6. The ability to cope with a reasonable amount of constructive criticism, and a lack of excessive inhibition allow for a healthy alliance.
7. Objectivity ensures the person won’t hinder himself or herself, and the partnership, with self-deception and excessive fantasy oriented thinking. An inferior sense of discernment can potentially be devastating.
8. Integrity is one of the most desirable traits a person can have. Those who have great difficulty living up to his or her asserted convictions make appalling partners.
9. Honesty is also one of the most agreeable traits, for obvious reasons. Insincerity, deception, and lies ruin many unions.
10. Transparency means you won’t be kept in the dark about important matters. Excessive secretiveness and evasiveness aren’t admirable characteristics.

Please note: clinical behavioral terms (and other extreme expressions and conditions) such as “narcissistic,” “prejudiced,” “evasive,” “envious,” “paranoid,” “confrontational,” “sadistic,” “defiant,” “emotionally unbalanced,” “mental disorder,” “dejected,” “depressed,” “psychotic,” “vindictive,” “deceitful,” “domineering,” “dumb,” “psychosis,” “pathological,” “duplicitous,” “two-faced,” “hot-tempered,” “lacking in integrity,” and “dishonest” aren’t typically addressed in assessments related to potential hires (or other, similar situations) because they are unrelated to the personality qualities needed to successfully do a job. In order to do an assessment under normal conditions within ethical boundaries, the subject first allows permission for the formal analysis. Extreme situations such as an innocent person’s life being at risk and, or dealing with a dangerous criminal might warrant an analysis involving the types of personality characteristics featured in this article.

All of the above personality traits (in the extreme—high risk territory), negative and positive, are readily identified through unconventional security investigations.

While it’s true the perfect partner, either business or personal, doesn’t exist, you can make your life easier by identifying negative attributes before it’s too late.

Copyright © 2018 Scott Petullo