Emotional intelligence is a controversial term because it’s often misunderstood.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines emotional intelligence as “the ability to recognize, understand, and deal skillfully with one’s own emotions and the emotions of others (as by regulating one’s emotions or by showing empathy and good judgment in social interactions).”
Emotional intelligence is emotional maturity. It’s the level of emotional development and security necessary to maintain a healthy emotional state, even under extreme pressure.
Ironically, many who demand that their romantic interest be emotionally intelligent may not be emotionally intelligent themselves. What she really wants is someone to comfort her, help her with her emotions, assuage her insecurities, and assure her everything is going to be alright.
Granted, a person who is completely emotionally unfeeling probably isn’t emotionally intelligent either.
A person who is predominantly a thinker instead of a feeler might have high emotional intelligence, yet the opposite can also be true.
The overall emotional foundation is comprised of the following traits, all of which are discernible through my profiles based on handwriting analysis and comprehensive astrology and numerology: emotional intelligence; emotional maturity; emotional sensitivity; emotional depth; emotional responsiveness; emotional expressiveness; emotional control; emotional balance and stability. I also readily identify many other traits, such as withdrawal, emotional neediness, and repression.
An emotionally intelligent person must be able to feel authentic empathy for another person. If, for example, a woman demands that her future husband be emotionally intelligent, ask her what men typically want in a woman. If she doesn’t know and isn’t interested in finding out, that suggests she is self-absorbed and isn’t empathetic. Therefore, she isn’t emotionally intelligent. An empathetic person would strive to understand what men really want in women so she could bring that to the table.
An emotionally intelligent person must take responsibility for his actions. If, for example, a man demands that his future wife be emotionally intelligent, ask him if he’s acknowledged his mistakes in past relationships. If he places all the blame on past lovers, then it’s a sure sign he’s not emotionally mature and thus lacks emotional intelligence. Rationalizing and blaming others for your bad behavior is rooted in self-deceit, which I also identify in my profiles.
Nobody wants an emotionally immature wife, husband, employee, business partner, co-worker, associate, or anyone else who is important in your life. Emotional immaturity, in the extreme, can complicate your life and ruin partnerships.
To find out if she has a problem with emotional immaturity before it’s too late, you could, for example, spend thousands of dollars (even tens of thousands) on traditional security investigations. The more money you spend, the more time investigators spend scrutinizing the subject’s life.
Or, you could take an unconventional route, including my services, to identify dozens of red-flag personality traits.
“It is very important to understand that emotional intelligence is not the opposite of intelligence; it is not the triumph of heart over head; it is the unique intersection of both.”
David Caruso
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