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Even if you do share the same values, have similar personalities and interests, are both willing to “work at it,” and both lack major character flaws—these five areas fully encompass conventional thinking on compatibility—you’ll still only address surface compatibility.
It’s one of the more fascinating dynamics of the human mind. A person gives you pretend reasons for their actions, and even believes those reasons, while the real motivations are hidden in the subconscious mind. It’s amazing that few things in a person’s overall behavior are controlled by conscious motives.
Here’s a challenge for those of you who are in a committed relationship: try never to think about sex with anyone but your spouse or significant other. You can’t do it, no matter how hard you try, due to the power of your subconscious mind. But don’t feel bad; it’s perfectly natural.
When is the last time someone you know well changed so much that you didn’t readily recognize his or her unique character? Never. It simply doesn’t happen. A tiger doesn’t change its stripes, as the saying goes.
Stubbornness is fairly common and can be classified as a subconscious defense pattern, like defiance, self-deception, and excessive secrecy. Unconscious defenses form as self-protective measures, and some are much more adverse than others.
A common (respectable) primary motivation is ego needs (recognition); a person’s self-image is strongly tied to public acknowledgement of their accomplishments.
Considering the many forms of dishonesty, almost everyone is dishonest to some degree, but most dishonesty is harmless and not the calculated, severe type.
Handwriting analysis is one of the most accurate and objective forms of personality analysis and reveals a lot about human sexuality.
Handwriting analysis identifies the overall amount of bias a person has, but specific personal tastes and idiosyncrasies such as despising redheads or men with facial hair can’t be measured.
Spotting these types of non-verbal cues can also be very entertaining. Another example is when you see a flash of disgust before a person rearranges their face into a smile.