Determining the degree of authentic compatibility between two people is, by conventional wisdom, only something you discover after it’s too late.
Whether it involves business or personal relationships, it takes months or even years to begin to understand the character of your partner.
More than thirty years ago I purchased an astrology profiler report, one of those advertised in New Age magazines in the 1980s. Upon reviewing it I sensed there was some validity to it, but that it was too general and imprecise to accurately represent genuine personality.
Since then, through obsessive analysis and empirical observation, I’ve developed a system of checks and balances that involves comprehensive astrology, numerology, and handwriting analysis to determine personality, compatibility, and the timing of personal fate.
Below I outline select key findings and tips to help you save time and avoid the mistakes I made.
- Report writing software and similar programs (including the software we currently sell) serve as decent introductions to astrology and numerology, but unfortunately, that’s all they do. All report writing software is based on Ptolemaic aspects (conjunction, square, trine, etc.), elements (fire, air, water, earth), connections between planets and houses, lunar and solar returns, and other elementary components of basic natal charts. It would take an army of programmers decades to write the code necessary for software that could begin to effectively outline character and timing like a seasoned analyst.
- Meditate regularly, without fail. Whether it’s to know the next best step to take, to understand another person better, or to figure out how to formulate your own systems of analysis, daily meditation is vital, even if it’s only 10 minutes.
- Consider motivations and personality red flags first, then compatibility. Once you know his or her motivations (e.g., money, ego, personal accomplishment, competition, creativity, etc.) and problem characteristics (e.g., evasiveness, narcissism, emotional volatility, emotional immaturity, domineering tendencies, defiance, etc.), determining compatibility is easier.
- Remember that everyone has his or her own unique personality challenges and strengths, and nobody is perfect.
- Nobody is perfectly honest all of the time. Various forms of dishonesty exist, but most dishonesty is harmless.
- Most people are not rational creatures. They always act emotionally and rationalize their behavior by offering logical reasons that aren’t the real reasons.
- Real personality traits emerge under pressure or stress. Do something challenging with your partner to get an idea of his or her authentic character. Long-distance travel is a good test, preferably involving heavy jet lag.
- The “unexplainable draw” (frequently at the start of the union) is often a good thing, but sometimes not in that it can unfortunately represent the magnetism necessary to learn some of life’s tough lessons.
- Everyone has his or her own unique karma, both rewarding and challenging, inside and outside of relationships, and the tough stuff can’t be erased with a magic wand. Personal fate is immutable.
- Compatibility isn’t a choice, it’s something two people innately possess, and each two-person connection is unique.
- If you spend more than half your energy boosting your sense of detachment and compassion trying to rise above the innately challenging energy of the partnership, you don’t have a satisfactory relationship.
- Collective personal timing is immensely important in regards to partnerships of all types. It can be a godsend, or an affliction.
- Nobody has perfect compatibility, no matter how harmonious it appears.
- Few people have fantastic compatibility that endures.
- Most people have mediocre compatibility.
- Regarding romantic compatibility, the vast majority of couples aren’t well suited enough to enjoy life-long, monogamous, mutual sexual compatibility. Pretending all is well in the bedroom is a universal pastime.
- Besides motivations, personality red flags, and personal timing and karma, mental, physical/sexual, intellectual, social, and emotional compatibility should be reviewed as well to get a good idea of the overall rapport.
You can learn a lot about compatibility by applying unconventional methods. Knowing how you match with another person can deepen your understanding and reduce your overall risk.
Copyright © 2017 Scott Petullo
One Response
Hello Scott,
According to our Natal Charts, we “belonged” together. I am a late degree Pisces, Libra Rising, Moon in Sag, and he is an early degree Scorpio, Leo Rising, Moon in Aquarius. A good, to great match, right? But when dealing with a sociopath, all bets are off.
Kind regards,
Kathy