It may surprise you that many relationships are predetermined to not last forever, that is, end sooner than expected.
An acquaintance recently endured a painful divorce. She did everything the way she was supposed to, including treating her mate with dignity, love, and respect. Her mate got tired of the relationship and left her for another lover.
The problem is that sometimes, no matter what you do, things don’t go the way you want.
Before you call me a fatalist, let’s agree that you can’t choose the way you’ll be tested in life, no matter how much you strive toward your goals, or how many inspirational books you read.
The term “failed relationship” is reminiscent of expecting a beloved pet to live as long as you do. It’s a misnomer for a relationship that lasted as long as it was predestined to last.
It’s not cruel to point out the truth of the matter when you look at it from a spiritual perspective: it was her predetermined path to experience what she experienced, including the pain of the separation.
She knew deep within her subconscious mind from the very beginning that the relationship wasn’t going to be life-long and that her ex wasn’t the monogamous type. “But her mate should have stayed with it,” the idealists say. Yes, it’s best to do all you can to save a relationship, but sometimes, when it’s over, it’s over.
The patterns in her comprehensive astrology and numerology charts symbolize the rough break-up outlined above and did so from the moment she was born.
It isn’t my job to explain why, by the way. For whatever reason, her soul (not her personality) chose that particular life occurrence. I didn’t share my findings with her until after the divorce, though if she had inquired, I would have. Extreme patterns symbolizing significant, troublesome (or the opposite) life episodes are easy for me to identify, though, understandably, not so easy for others to digest.
She couldn’t have been “smarter from the beginning” about the situation. Time and time again, personal fate (the “good” and the “bad”) manifests as outlined in the esoteric patterns and there’s nothing you can do to avoid it, especially since the key “decisions” also appear to be fated. The “unexplainable draw,” the glue that helps to bring about personal predetermination is a relentlessly fascinating study, whether the ultimate karmic plan is rewarding or challenging.
My philosophy is that you should strive to be optimistic and you shouldn’t discourage impressionable people (e.g., children), but don’t exploit their innocence either and tell them anyone can have a harmonious, life-long relationship as long as they are fair-minded.
One solution to this dilemma is to be more business-like about relationships, but few people are willing to do that due to it potentially “killing the romance.” So you have a choice: continue to be swept away by Neptune’s illusion, or avoid the crowd-pleasing platitudes and escapist notions and squarely face reality so that life becomes more tolerable and ultimately more enjoyable.
Copyright © 2017 Scott Petullo