Fundamental human compatibility has more to do with factors other than mundane matters such as interests, background, physical appearance, hobbies, and career. The underpinnings are largely due to unseen, esoteric dynamics.
I would have been skeptical of such a notion prior to twenty-plus years of seeing this phenomenon in real life examples countless times.
Extremes in compatibility illustrate my thesis. You meet someone new and from the very beginning it’s either mutual rapport, or mutual distaste.
Conventional science explains such a scenario through fears, defenses and biases. For example, person A is prejudiced against those like person B, and likewise with person B.
However, I’m referring to the situation where person A and person B aren’t biased whatsoever; they simply naturally despise each other for unexplained reasons. Or, the opposite, they can’t get enough of each other.
You’ve likely found yourself in this situation before, and it’s too easy to blame the other person for the innate strife in the connection, in the case of terrible compatibility.
But if you pay attention, you’ll notice a unique compatibility between every two-person arrangement and there’s nothing you can do to alter it.
Fantastic compatibility either exists between two people, or it doesn’t, and it’s measurable. I’m speaking of innate compatibility, before you factor in any red-flag personality issues, physical attraction, and different types and levels of intelligence, including emotional intelligence.
Affinity between two people could be inherently magnificent, but subconscious fears and defenses such as vanity, resentment, dishonesty, domineering tendencies and others could ruin the prospects.
Handwriting analysis is my favorite way to identify personality red flags. Extreme personality challenges such as those listed above, or drug and alcohol problems, for example, make harmonious bonds impossible even for those with fantastic rapport.
You may be fortunate to have an excellent connection with your partner, symbolized by the astrology and numerology patterns, yet one of you is an intellectual and the other is rooted in emotions and feeling. No connection is perfect, but similar mentalities and emotional aptitudes further enhance relationships.
Every person you interact with, whether it’s business, social, or romantic uniquely harmonizes with you, and the deep-rooted compatibility can be accurately illustrated on a scale of 1-100, for example.
Some people just click, others don’t, and nobody is to blame. Unless you want to torture yourself, it’s a good idea to avoid the “anyone can be compatible as long as you have similar interests and try to get along” point of view.
The exquisite, enduring feeling that fosters a mutual sense of self-assurance exists between two people or it doesn’t. The simple truth of the matter is that the more difficult your compatibility, the harder you must work to make your relationship work.
You have the option of determining compatibility before you spend years trying to fix something that isn’t fixable. Identifying innate compatibility, and red flag personality issues, can greatly reduce your risk before it’s too late.
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