Merriam-Webster dictionary defines ego as, “…the self especially as contrasted with another self or the world,” and “self-esteem.” It offers an example of ego, “a star athlete with a refreshing lack of ego,” along with synonyms (pride, pridefulness, self-esteem, self-regard, self-respect) and antonyms (humbleness, humility, modesty).
You’ve likely heard someone say, “He (or she) has a huge ego.” In this sense, the person’s ego isn’t viewed as impressive, but problematic.
Seven truths about ego:
- A “big ego” is really a weak, unhealthy ego. A person with a very weak ego commonly has an endless need for appreciation and respect from everyone and, or they act as if the world revolves around them–they aren’t rational.
- Insecurity (lack of confidence and security in self) undermines a healthy ego and can manifest as vanity.
- Vanity frequently stems from too much or too little praise in the person’s childhood.
- Severe ego problems are destructive to personal and professional relationships, and can be a sign of other, more serious negative personality traits such as denial and deceit.
- A healthy ego is a very desirable trait. Rejection is tolerable for someone with a strong ego.
- Good ego strength has a lot to do with a healthy sense of self-worth; the person believes they deserve to reach their goals and have their needs met.
- A common (respectable) primary motivation is ego needs (recognition); a person’s self-image is strongly tied to public acknowledgement of their accomplishments. The “Motivation Assessment Analysis,” option number five toward the bottom of this page, uncovers true motivations—what someone really wants. My analyses evaluate subconscious character, the real personality, which breaks through the persona while under pressure.
Handwriting analysis readily and accurately measures ego, the related personality traits mentioned above, and can help you substantially limit your personal and business related risk.
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