Compatibility: It’s Either There or It’s Not, and It’s Measurable
The definition of and how to assess compatibility are topics that are endlessly debated by relationship coaches, psychology PhDs, and others.
In my view, the evolution of understanding the dynamics of true compatibility, from the most oblivious standpoint, to the most mindful, is as follows:
- Any two people can be very compatible, no matter what.
- Any two people can be very compatible, as long as there is a physical attraction.
- Any two people can be very compatible, as long as there is a physical attraction and they share basic likes, such as football and pizza, and dislikes, such as reading and vegetables.
- Any two people can be very compatible, as long as there is chemistry, including a physical attraction, and they each work hard to make their differences tolerable (as if compatibility is always a choice). Compatibility depends on how two people choose to interact—as long as they try to understand each other, it can work.
- Finally, the realization sets in that, along with physical attraction and chemistry, true compatibility goes far beyond how much two people “try to make it work.” Compatibility is much less something you make, and much more something two people innately have between themselves.
It’s been said that “personality assessments don’t predict anything, but how two people relate to each other does.” While it’s true personality assessments don’t make actual predictions, accurately identifying personality red flags goes a long way in illustrating how a person might relate to another person. Absolutely, thoroughly outlining personality will strongly suggest to you how a person will “choose” to relate to others, particularly while under pressure.
The hidden underlying forces of compatibility are illustrated by handwriting analysis, and comprehensive astrology and numerology. There is a spiritual angle to compatibility that is frequently overlooked.
Person A, B, and C can have the same unique interests, share similar attractiveness and agreeableness, be good negotiators and have excellent interpersonal skills, and be more than willing to work toward a successful relationship, yet person A and person B totally clash with person C.
It is what it is, and there’s nothing you can do about it. This reality holds true in all types of relationships, including business associations.
The worse the compatibility is between two people, the harder they must work to make the relationship bearable. It really is that simple.
Please note: compatibility between two people could be naturally very high, before the personality challenges (e.g., vanity, anger, resentment, domineering tendencies, dishonesty, drug and alcohol problems, etc.) of one or both are outlined by handwriting analysis and figured into the equation. An abundance of red flags might yield something like this: “Person A and person B are very compatible, but person B’s extreme personality challenges and person A’s moderate personality challenges make this an all but impossible relationship, predominantly for person A.
Furthermore, there are different levels of compatibility, all measurable through handwriting analysis, and comprehensive astrology and numerology: emotional (for instance, those who are very emotionally compatible don’t fight for each other’s attention, and respond to and return emotional eagerness); intellectual, mental; physical, sexual; and social.
Every person with whom you interact, whether it’s a romantic, social, or business relationship, uniquely and inherently harmonizes with you, and the intrinsic compatibility can be very accurately illustrated on a scale of 1-100, for example.
Reduce your risk and seek to understand others by striving to know true compatibility.
Copyright © 2011 Scott Petullo